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Life Comes First

By bencar

On Friday, October 23, 2009, a co-worker and friend of mine, lost his battle with that bastard called Cancer. I had been debating whether or not to go see him the day before in the Hospital, and finally came to the conclusion that I had better follow through on my thought. I could have waited, I could have spent my time doing fun things first, but somehow, I just had a sense that this was one of those times when I had better heed the warnings about my co-worker/friend's condition. The very next day, while sitting in front of this Computer, taking care of some personal things, the phone call no one ever wants to get about their friend, came. He's gone now, and if I hadn't listened to the warnings, and my inner voice, I would have missed out on the only chance I was going to have to visit with my friend, and let him know I cared about him.

It was extremely hard to go into work today, and sit at my desk, in the little Office I shared with my friend. Every time I looked over at his Desk, I had to choke back the tears, every time someone asked me how am I doing, it was all I could to keep my composure. It is highly doubtful that the darlins my friend and I work for, will miss my friend (Mike Karp), for as long, and as much as I, his other friends, and family will. Mike and I had our moments, but we somehow got through them, and if Mike knew you needed help, he was there for you before you asked, now, I wish I could learn how to fix people, like I can Cars, Model Trains, and Computers, so I could be there for Mike.

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bencar’s Profile Photo
Oct 27, 2009 at 5:05 pm
Bri, I know, you know what I meant by the title of my Blog, and you won't allow these Internet sites to dominate your life.
MONGOOSE’s Profile Photo
Oct 27, 2009 at 9:08 am
Sorry to hear of your friends battle. prayers to family and him. take care bro..
Pontiac_Birds_Nest’s Profile Photo
Oct 27, 2009 at 12:03 am
I know Ben, when I read your blog it reminded me the stuff I went through and how I wished and should of been there for my brother. I was young, I made sure I was there for my other brother and it felt so good and so right, it kinda took away some of my anger, but I also know that he would want me to let it go and say it's alright.

bencar’s Profile Photo
Oct 26, 2009 at 6:45 pm

Your story points out the real purpose of my Blog, and it wasn't to get sympathy, it was to point out what one should have as their first priority, and it isn't Internet sites.
doug112’s Profile Photo
Oct 25, 2009 at 7:25 pm
Sorry for your loss
jebfastlane’s Profile Photo
Oct 25, 2009 at 10:09 am
Sorry for your loss Ben my prayers are with you. John
Pontiac_Birds_Nest’s Profile Photo
Oct 25, 2009 at 1:31 am
Sorry for your loss Ben. I had a experience with one of my brothers about 19 yrs ago when my parents asked me if I wanted to go with them to the hospital to visit my sick brother. I declined that evening to go out and party with friends, I later came home and found out he passed away. I was devestated, and bothers me to the day that I never went down to see him that night. One of my other brothers had cancer and was sick in the hospital about 8 yrs ago and I made sure I was there for him in his last days. I was glad I was there for him and told him how much I loved him. Although when my first brother died, nobody thought he was going to die but just really bothers me that I wasn't there to see him that night. Once again I am sorry for your loss and just wanted to share my story with you.

bencar’s Profile Photo
Oct 24, 2009 at 9:14 pm
"I'm sorry cancer took another good life."

So am I, and hopefully, my small donation to the American Cancer Society, will move things one step closer to stopping that Bastard (Cancer) dead in its tracks
bencar’s Profile Photo
Oct 24, 2009 at 9:12 pm
Mainly, don't forget your flesh and blood friends in the real world, tend to them first.
hal101’s Profile Photo
Oct 24, 2009 at 8:31 pm
realy sorry to hear that

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